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    Jul132011

    Control vs Cooperation

    Given the choice, which do you prefer?

     

    Relationship Model #1

    Control  (as a verb)

    1. to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command.

    2. to hold in check; curb: to control a horse; to control one's emotions.

    Control  (as a noun)

    1. the act or power of controlling; regulation; domination or command: Who's in control here?

    2. the situation of being under the regulation, domination, or command of another: The car is out of control.

    3. check or restraint: Her anger is under control.

     

    Relationship Model #2

    Cooperate (as a verb)

    1. to work or act together or jointly for a common purpose or benefit.

    2. to work or act with another or other persons willingly and agreeably.

    3. to practice economic cooperation.

    Cooperation (as a noun)

    1. an act or instance of working or acting together for a common purpose or benefit; joint action.

    2. more or less active assistance from a person, organization, etc.: We sought the cooperation of various civic leaders.

    3. willingness to cooperate: to indicate cooperation.

    4. Economics . the combination of persons for purposes of production, purchase, or distribution for their joint benefit: producers' cooperation; consumers' cooperation.

    5. Sociology . activity shared for mutual benefit.

    6. Ecology . mutually beneficial interaction among organisms living in a limited area.

     

    Most everyone would say, "cooperation." So why do we revert to control? I notice that we tend to become controlling when we don't know how to get someone to cooperate, and we're unwilling to let go.

     

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