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    Jun222013

    Failing well is often the key to success

    I posted the link below to Facebook, but wanted to be sure to share with all of you too.

    We learn everything of value in life from our failings. A toddler learns to walk from falling down. The failure of selfishness is what teaches us the primacy of love.

    Trial and error and learning is the basis of evolution itself. We learn nothing from success.

    Failing well, meaning failing gracefully, with minimum fuss, and being willing and able to learn from our mistakes, is a key to success in every aspect of life.

    You don't want to succeed. You want to fail and fail fast and learn from that failure and recover from that failure -- quickly, and then keep going and succeed -- not because you were lucky or talented or right, but because you learned how and put into practice what you learned. You want to succeed because you earned it.

    Studies show:

    That being a poor sport, meaning blaming others or being upset with oneself, is what makes someone a consistent loser over time. Blaming is a sure sign of weakness. Self-pity or self-attack makes things worse.

    That winners face loss and gain with unbroken determination. That winners are not frustrated or deterred by loss, they maintain their composure and rise above adversity.

    That anger is indicator of fear and weakness while remaining calm and even-tempered is a mark of strength.

    That, while competing, we perform best when we cultivate a sense of restful alertness, focusing on what is wanted and letting go of any tendency to panic, cry, tremble or curse.

    We are at our best when we keep it together, stay relaxed and calm and focus, positively and singlemindedly, on what we're doing.

    Grit, meaning steady, calm determination, is the key to success in most undertakings. It is a necessary toughness born not of detachment or numbness but equanimity and practiced steadiness.

    Now read the article:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/18/magazine/what-if-the-secret-to-success-is-failure.html?_r=0

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