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    Snap judgments are usually wrong + the mystery quote of the week

    We often use snap judgments of others as a way of measuring how we ourselves are doing. But looks can be deceiving and snap judgements are usually wrong. Add in the fact that people are often "fronting" or showing you only what they want you to see. Sometimes we're doing better than we realize and we worry needlessly.

    Then we say, "If only I had what others have -- more money, or a partner, or a child, or a better career or more health, or looks or talent -- I would be happier." Except that people who already have those things often aren't any happier than you are.

    Don't believe everything you see and hear. As a coach, I get to hear people's true stories, not the ones they keep on hand for public consumption. And if there is one thing I've learned, it's that everyone has their struggles. Everyone has their challenges. Everyone has their insecurities. Life isn't easy for anyone.

    Instead of comparing yourself to others, or your perceptions and fantasies of others, compare yourself to yourself. Think about where you are and where you want to be because that's the only comparison that matters.

    I started thinking about this because I came across this quote:

    "Many people you believe to be rich are not rich. Many people you think have it easy worked hard for what they got. Many people who seem to be gliding right along have suffered and are suffering. Many people who appear to you to be old and stupidly saddled down with kids and cars and houses were once every bit as hip and pompous as you."

    Anyone recognize this quote? I would love to know who wrote it.

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