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    Wednesday
    Apr202016

    New Workshop: The Yoga of Love and Relationships

    This workshop is the first in our new series: Yoga Beyond the Mat, exploring how to use the understandings and practices of Yoga to strengthen, enrich and expand our experience of joy and satisfaction in everyday life.

    In this series, we'll explore the inner practices of Yoga, the concepts, tools, resources, perspectives and practices that bring out the beauty and power of the full teaching of Yoga, infusing body, heart and mind with peace, love and understanding.

    This workshop will focus mainly on the teachings of Heart-Centered Yoga on love and relationship, drawn directly from the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, the Bhagavad Gita and Radiance Sutras, but also from the teachings of contemporary Yoga and Advaita masters.

    The workshop will include discussion, guided meditation and practical advice on how we can use these principles of Heart-Centered Yoga to expand our experience of love, closeness, compassion and mutual support in all our relationships, with a special focus on the most important relationship of all -- the one you have with yourself.

    Where: Firefly Yoga, 311 Washington St, Westwood, MA

    When: May 14,  1pm-4pm

    Cost $45

    You can sign up here: http://www.fireflyyogama.com/westwood-workshops/

    Wednesday
    Mar302016

    What is Yoga Meditation?

    (Newsletter from the Thursday Night Group)

    Hi Everyone,

    Thanks again to all of you who are supporting and participating the program. It's so good to sit in Satsang with you every week.

    So what is this meditation? Why do we do it? And why the ongoing practice?

    On the simplest level, meditation is setting aside intimate, quiet time with oneself, and it's using that time to bring all parts of yourself into alignment.

    We use a theme (a mantra) to align our thinking and feeling, our attitudes, understandings and perspectives so that all parts of us are operating without conflict, without stress, and all our activities reflect and support our actual purposes and values in life.

    It may sound complicated but It's actually a lot easier than most people think. Good technique makes all the difference. The real reason most people fail in meditation, or asana practice, isn't that it was too hard or they couldn't do it -- it's that they weren't given a good grounding in proper technique.

    In Yoga practice, technique is everything. Proper technique is what makes Yoga enjoyable and rewarding, safe and productive.

    Success in Mantra Meditation depends less on effort and more on skill and understanding. No amount of mental effort or determination will accomplish what good technique can do. That's why we spend so much time perfecting and clarifying our understanding of practice  -- so that we can get better results with less struggle, less difficulty.

    Done properly, meditation should leave you refreshed, restored, calm, rested and more aligned within yourself so that you can return to activity with a sense of clarity, purpose and capability. It should never feel like a struggle.

    Meditation in the traditional sense, in the Yoga tradition, is a heart-centered practice, not a head-centered one. Correct use of a mantra (think of it as an mental organizing principle that we use to bring all parts of us into harmony) allows a person to transcend the stress and busyness of conscious thought and tap into the deeper currents of feeling, presence and awareness, and this integration of heart and mind allows the inner resources of soul, self and purpose to infuse every part of our being, strengthening and supporting all of our intentions and activities in life.

    By strengthening and supporting your resolve, your sense of purpose and your resourcefulness, Yoga meditation supports your life on four different levels.
    Traditionally, these four parts of life are known as:

    - Dharma (alignment with and support from Nature and the environment)
    - Artha (enjoyment of physical and material security, success and comfort)
    - Kama (fulfillment of enjoyment, happiness and personal desire)
    - Moksha (liberation from all bondage and existential suffering).

    Improvement happens spontaneously in all four parts of life as a result of regular practice.

    The surface, thinking mind is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to utilizing our real capabilities, our full potential. Meditation that stays on the surface of the mind, on the level of monitoring, or practicing non-judgmental awareness may calm a person down, make them more detached, but it won't help a person be more motivated, inspired, resourceful or adaptive, the way Yoga meditation does. It won't enliven the four parts of life the way Yoga does.

    To truly transform the total person, meditation must involve what is called transcendence, diving deep into deeper resources of heart and mind -- where the power lies and the magic happens. Most of our intelligence (EQ and IQ), our creativity, motivational resources and social skills lie deep within, in the deeper parts of heart and mind, waiting to be tapped and utilized for our own benefit and the benefit of others.

    Yoga, and Yoga meditation is a natural, easy, enjoyable way to tap into and enjoy these inner resources.

    In this way we arrive at the totality of ourselves. In this way we begin to enjoy more of the fullness of life.

    Come join us this and every Thursday as we explore and refine our understanding of Yoga and meditation: 311 Washington Street, Westwood, 7:30pm.

    We'll mostly likely be continuing these weekly meetings until the end of May. Until then, the sessions are open to all, beginner and experienced meditator alike -- all levels of practice are welcomed and supported.

    Hope to see you there.

    love,

    Dennis

    339-502-0009
    www.dennisyoung.com


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    Thursday
    Mar102016

    Q & A from the Thursday Night Meditation Group

    Hi  Everyone

    Great session last week. Thanks to everyone who participated.

    People were telling me afterwards that they enjoyed the meditation so much they didn't want to come out! It's always good to hear that. Meditation should be enjoyable. If it isn't, there's something lacking in your technique. Be sure to let me know if you're having difficulty and I'll help you get back on track.

    This week I thought I'd do a little Q & A. Here are the two questions I get asked most:

    Q. I've been practicing Vipassana Meditation (breath-awareness) for some time now. Can I combine this with the Mantra Meditation that I'm learning from you?

    The traditional Mantra Meditation we've been studying and practicing is a natural technique. It makes use of the natural tendency of the mind to seek well-being and release suffering, and it does it in a way that is completely effortless and natural -- no struggle, just simple innocence. This approach to meditation supports and enhances any other form of spiritual or self-development practice, the same way it supports and uplifts every aspect of the practitioner's daily life.

    The two practices in question, Vipassana and Mantra, have a common foundation. Both are based on a "centering practice," meaning they both follow a "1. focus -> 2. distraction happens -> 3. gently refocus" loop.

    Centering practice, that is, picking a focal point and then returning to it after being distracted is the preliminary "root" practice of all meditation. In Vipassana one uses the breath or "present moment" as the focal point; in Mantra we use a feeling/concept called mantra as the focal point.

    Here's where the two approaches differ more significantly:

    Vipassana and MBSR are flat or "horizontal" techniques, meaning one attempts to stay focused on the conscious, "present moment," surface level of mind with the aim of developing a state of non-judgmental awareness. Some people add an attitude of compassion or loving kindness towards self and others as well.

    Mantra Meditation begins at the same conscious level of mind, but instead of staying there and developing a sense of emotional detachment, proper Mantra practice allows the attention to go deeper, beyond conscious mind, awakening and aligning subtler dimensions of known, felt and intentional experience. Mantra is a "vertical" or depth technique, aimed at bringing about full integration of body, mind, heart and intention, arriving at wholeness, unity of the total person.

    The two approaches, the first derived from Buddhist practice and the latter, part of Classical Yoga practice are both called meditation. Both are based on centering practice, but each has different aims and different effects.

    The scientific research on both approaches bears this out as well.

    They are not incompatible. You can do both -- just not at the same time. Most people prefer mantra once they've tried it. It's easier to do and more enjoyable, and in the long run I believe it produces better results.

    Q. What can I do to get more from my practice and how can I maintain a regular practice? It's hard to find time to meditate every day, and my experiences aren't always good.

    1. Get ongoing instruction from a qualified and experienced instructor, whatever approach you choose. I can't emphasize this enough. It's true in physical yoga practice and it's true in meditation. No one can learn proper technique from a book or website, and no one can learn to meditate properly in one session. Learn proper technique (non-forcing; acceptance; non-comparison; self-referencing and non-clinging or surrender) and check with your instructor to be sure you're doing it right.

    2. Participate in group meditation sessions. There's nothing like the support of the group experience to strengthen and clarify your meditation. That's where the magic happens. Group practice is the rising tide that floats all boats.

    3. Be regular in your meditation. Meditate at least once a day, every day, sitting for at least 20 minutes. What works best for most people is choosing a meditation time before some other event you do every day: before you shower, or before breakfast, lunch or dinner. Commit to doing this for at least a month before trying to evaluate results.

    Your experiences will vary from day to day. This is normal, but at the first sight of struggle or discomfort, or if you find yourself confused, check with your teacher.

    Meditation, done correctly, should be easy, something you look forward to doing. If it isn't, you're probably trying to force things. If you have good technique, the experience should be steady and comfortable, just like in asana practice.

    If a teacher tells you to "feel the pain and do it anyway -- sit until the discomfort doesn't bother you anymore," find another teacher.

    And always remember: we evaluate our practice not just by the experience we're having while we're doing it, but more importantly, by the experience we're having during the day.

    I look forward to seeingyou at our Thursday Night Meditation, every Thursday for the next month or so, at 7:30pm311 Washington Street, Westwood. After that we'll be moving to a new format, enrolling a multi-session closed group. We'll still do open sessions from time to time, but less frequently.

    And good news! We just got a new shipment of additional Backjack seats so there should be plenty of comfortable seating for everyone.

    You can, if you wish, reserve your seat for this Thursday by booking in advance with Firefly on Mind/Body. That will make check-in easy and quick.

    Thanks and hope to see you soon!

    Much love, Dennis

    Dennis Young
    339.502-0009
    www.dennisyoung.com
    Sunday
    Jan102016

    Eight Limbs? How about Four Legs?

    Thanks again to everyone who attended last Thursday's class. It was great to be together again after our long break and to find we hadn't lost any of our momentum. People continue to have great experiences with the Yoga meditation, and that of course makes me very happy.

    Even more gratifying is the fact that we have a great group of people coming together to explore the full practice of Yoga and Meditation.

    We're learning to expand and deepen our practice of Yoga and take it more fully into our daily lives. We're learning to live "namaste," not just say it.

    In its simplest sense, Yoga means getting all four parts of us: body, mind, heart and behavior, to work together for the common good. When all four parts of us are together in harmony, we're a better person, more who we always wanted to be.

    That's why there are four main branches of Yoga: the Yoga of Understanding (Jnana), the Yoga of Feeling (Bhakti), the Yoga of Action (Karma Yoga) and most importantly, Raja Yoga, the Yoga of Formal Practice -- the formal Yoga we do together in the studio when we meditate together or practice Vinyasa.

    The four branches of Yoga: Jnana, Bhakti, Karma and Raja, are like the four legs of a table. All four legs work together to provide full support.

    And when we have that support and all parts of us, our beliefs and understanding, our motivations and behavior, align to support our intentions, life flows effortlessly with the full support of Nature. This is the basic promise of Yoga.

    Our weekly Thursday Night Meditation Classes were thus designed with a two-fold purpose: to support a broader and deeper understanding of the full practice of Yoga -- body, heart, mind and behavior -- and to also support a deeper practice and understanding of meditation in the Yoga tradition.

    We've taken out all the mysticism and fluff and replaced it with common sense language and understanding to support all levels of practice. Everything we discuss is practical and immediately applicable to your present situation.

    Each session includes instruction and practice in Yoga Meditation, including two 15 minute group meditations.

    If you're new to this, traditional Yoga Meditation, unlike other practices of meditation, is easy and refreshing, leaving you relaxed and inspired, and the instruction you'll receive will give you all the tools you'll need to continue to meditate successfully at home.

    This week we'll continue the adventure with more discussion of the meaning of energy attunement in Asana and Meditation practice.

    On a personal note, I feel very fortunate that our collective intentions have attracted and drawn together such a wonderful group of people, a true satsang in the Yoga tradition, a wonderful group of caring people who have and opportunity to enjoy and benefit from one another's company and support.

    Thank you all.

    All are welcome. And more good news: We have added new Backjack Meditation Seats to help make the experience even more comfortable and rewarding.

    Feel free to share this with anyone who you think might be interested in attending.

    Date: Every Thursday evening from 7:30pm-9pm; Place: Firefly Yoga, 311 Washington St, Westwood, MA; Cost: $17

    Sunday
    Nov292015

    Meditation As The Formal Practice of Gratitude


    We are all truly blessed in so many ways, and yet how easy it is to lose sight of this and fall into feelings of anxiety, regret or self-pity, or worse yet, bitterness or resentment over what we do not have.

    The practice of gratitude, of "counting one's blessings," has long been spoken of as a remedy for all these ills, the idea being that cultivating an attitude of thankfulness and appreciation can counter any tendency to resentment, regret or a sense of lack.

    The question is: how to best instill in ourselves this sense of appreciation and even more important, make it stick? The world is mad with greed and envy. How can we learn to stay grateful for what we have instead of resenting what we don't have?

    An important point needs to be made first: gratitude doesn't mean forced humility or the suppression of desire. Nor does it mean learning to put up with less than what we need. Gratitude is a joyful appreciation of our many blessings but must include a sense that abundance is a birthright, that the blessings of life can expand and all should share them. When gratitude means being relieved to know that our wants and needs have been met and will continue to be met, then with that thankfulness comes a sense of peace and security, as opposed the hollow, anxious sense that it could all be taken away if we're not grateful enough. There is no envy or bitterness, greed or anxiety when all have enough.

    We need a sense that our good fortune is not due to luck nor the result of merit, that in fact we are all worthy and deserving and it is a good thing when everyone gets what they need. But how to train the mind and understanding to this more positive, inclusive, trusting and adaptive way of being? Yoga has an answer.

    (The basis for this concept of gratitude comes from the second and third principles of Yama, the ethical guidelines of Yoga, the two principles of Satya and Asteya, which, properly understood, allow us to feel secure that, 1) what we have is always enough for now and that, 2) with practice still more will be given. We'll be talking more about this topic in future sessions.)

    In both understanding and in practice, Yoga provides us with the possibility of relief from anxiety about lack. The practice of daily meditation using mantra in the Yoga tradition gives us a practical way to formally instill this secure knowing in ourselves by conditioning the mind to naturally maintain this more positive, more adaptive, more secure way of being.

    But not all forms of meditation work this way. Vipassana Meditation, which emphasizes a sense of detachment or neutrality, teaches us to relinquish desire itself and learn to avoid both liking or disliking as a way of avoiding clinging and attachment. But Yoga says desire is not wrong; equanimity is not detachment; not all attachments are bad; and neutral isn't the same thing as good. The mind and heart want to appreciate, to value, to love, to grow, to tend toward the good.

    The kind of meditation that renounces desire makes sense for a renunciate, someone committed to a monastic life, but not for a householder living an active life in the world. That person needs to grow and fulfill the promise of the world, not renounce it.

    Meditation is about releasing resistance, releasing negativity, but it is even more about expanding appreciation and growth. Meditation should support joy and abundance, not indifference and austerity.

    Regular practice of this Mantra Meditation supports the development of an innate discriminating intelligence (prajna) that automatically favors what we like and what nourishes us and releases what is resistive or harmful. The mind is thus trained to move away from what is pointlessly stressful and to move toward that which is is genuinely rewarding.

    This kind of meditation promotes and supports the full range of positive emotions and releases and nullifies the full range of negative ones. The mind and heart become more balanced and clear about what is better for us and what is worse, and we orient more appropriately, making better choices and affirming better values.

    In contemporary Buddhism, perhaps because it has its roots in monasticism, emotions are too often seen as disturbances of the "rational" mind. In Yoga, emotions are not "disturbances" in the mind. They are support systems that motivate, guide and steady us. When they work as they should, they are currents of positive energy that support the cognitive processes (perception, understanding, judgment) in coming to better conclusions and making better, more life supporting choices.

    Positive emotional states like love, forgiveness and appreciation enhance the benefits of meditation, just as cultivating an attitude of gratitude enhances one's experience of living day to day.

    The attitude of welcoming, allowing, and appreciating recommended in the practice of Mantra Meditation trains the mind to see more of the possibilities, less of the limitations; more of the joy, less of the sorrow. The world becomes a better place for us because we can more easily see the good in it and we stand inspired to add to it's abundance of goodness.

    We must accentuate the positive because one cannot remove or resist the negative. Resisting the negative only adds to the negativity. The only way forward is for each of us to recognize and find ways to add our efforts to the good that is already in the world.

    Compassion is a beautiful thing, but it is no substitute for love or joy. Nor is it enough to simply care or sympathize. We must take positive action to relieve suffering, first in ourselves and then in one another. True charity, a profound form of love, is a powerful force, especially when charitable actions are performed from a place of gratitude and joy.

    An article by Dave Mochel recently published in Quartz.com makes some very good points about the relationship between gratitude and meditation, both in practice and in terms of benefits:

    http://qz.com/558908/the-psychological-benefits-of-gratitude-closely-mirror-those-of-meditation/

    From the article:
    "The biggest challenge of giving thanks is that your brain will give you lots of compelling reasons to resent, resist, and complain about circumstances and people you do not like. Being grateful is not a replacement for addressing injustice, asserting values, working toward important goals, or dealing with challenge. But practicing gratitude is a way to improve your quality of life and relationships while you are doing these things.

    Despite what your brain may tell you, your capacity for being grateful is not dependent on either your circumstances or how you feel. Put simply, gratitude is available to you whenever you choose to practice it. This is why mindfulness and gratitude are powerfully complementary. Mindfulness is the skillful use of attention. When you are caught spinning in a pattern of worry, rumination, self-judgment or blame, it can be very helpful to notice how you are spending your time and energy."

    Mantra Upaya, Mantra Meditation in the Yoga tradition, is a wonderful way to practice gratitude privately, in your heart, so that you are better able to practice it in your daily life.

    Come join us this Thursday, December 3 at Firefly Yoga, 311 Washington St, Westwood, MA, for our regular Thursday Night Meditation Group. Session starts at 7:30pm. All are welcome.

    Sunday
    Nov152015

    Meditation Is the Systematic Release of Resistant or Stressful Thought

    Hi Everyone,

    Here's our weekly/preview of the Thursday night group meditation and training. I hope you're enjoying the program and finding it helpful -- I know I am. As always your feedback and suggestions are most welcome and I thank you for your support.

    If you have a moment, I would love to hear from you and learn more about how you're doing with your meditation practice.

    Last week:

    We discussed and practiced the elements of Mantra Meditation: 1. Presence, 2. Being-Awake, 3. Awareness, 4. Idea/Feeling, and 5. Meditating itself -- the process of moving the attention within the mind-field, learning to consistently "favor" the mantra as a path to full meditation, what Patanjali calls Dhyana -- systematically attuning the mind to a more expansive, more adaptive state of awareness and being.

    We define this meditation as the systematic release of resistant or stressful thought (yogas-chitta-vritti-nirodha, YS1:2), which allows the mind-field (chitta) to become more fully attuned and aligned (samadhi) to the energy and flow of Life itself. This is the true goal of Yoga: living in total harmony with Life and Nature without obstacles or resistance of any kind.

    Mantra, in this meditation, is any idea/feeling used as a vehicle to condition or train the mind to a more expansive, more adaptive way of being. In essence a mantra is is a practiced good-feeling thought; a thought that gives relief. It is a safe haven in the mind; child's pose for the mind.

    Proper technique for the use of the mantra in meditation follows the precepts of Yoga: 1. Non-Forcing, 2. Accepting or Allowing, 3. Non-Comparison, 4. Relying-On-Self, and 5. Non-Clinging. In formal meditation we gently condition the mind through daily practice to be more inclusive, more adaptive, more creative and more satisfied.

    Proper technique, meaning, how we use the mantra, is essential for good results, and mastering the subtleties of this technique is far more important than the actual mantra itself.

    Understanding and practicing these five elements of meditation, which is what we are doing week by week, is the best way to become thoroughly grounded in the experience. The weekly sessions are a systematic way to "tune" your meditation technique, making your practice at home more comfortable and worthwhile.

    Last week we also began to explore the metaphor of attunement (samadhi) as a way to understand and guide the experience of meditation. The concept is also useful as a way to guide our development and growth in everyday life itself. What we pay attention to, we attune to. As we focus, so shall we be.

    Yoga is fundamentally an energy practice, a spiritual practice. Alignment/attunement is one of the central concepts of both contemporary energy work and traditional spiritual practice. (See last week's journal entry for more information on this. You can find it below this one.)

    Attunement is a powerful concept but an even more powerful experience. Learning how to seek and favor alignment/attunement in both formal and informal practice is essential to the successful practice of Yoga.

    In the practice of Asana and Vinyasa, we learn to attune to steadiness in position and in flow; one-pointed dedication to the fulfillment of the asana in body, heart and mind.

    In meditation we attune to "the good" in mind, in heart and also on the level of purpose or intention. We systematically release resistance to Life's natural flow,


    Yoga has eight limbs. In physical practice we focus on only one or two of these. Our Thursday sessions broaden our focus to include the fundamentals of the inner practice of Yoga, the "non-physical" practices of Yama, Niyama, Pranayama, Pratyahara, Dharana, Dhyana and Samadhi. This full practice of Yoga will takes your personal experience of physical Yoga to a whole new level, inside and out: spirit, heart, mind, body, and behavior all aligned for the common good.

    This week:

    Hope to see you this Thursday night, 11/19 at Firefly Yoga, 311 Washington St, Westwood, MA. Start time is 7:30pm. This coming Thursday's session will focus mostly on the experience of group meditation. We've got enough understanding and flow in the group at this point to sustain longer meditations and that's what we'll be doing.

    The more experienced meditators will hopefully attend to energetically support those who are newer to practice, the way a rising tide floats all boats. And hopefully those of you who can't be there will support/join us in spirit.

    All are welcome.

    Love,

    Dennis

    Arlington, MA

    Sunday
    Nov082015

    Meditation as an Attunement of Mind, Heart, Body and Spirit

    Meditation can mean many things -- many different understandings, practices, approaches and outcomes. In our weekly meetings, we've been discussing everything from Anapanasati (mindfulness of breathing) to Vipassana (mindfulness of thoughts, feelings and actions) to Mantra Upaya and Mantra Siddhi (skilled use of mantra as a Yoga, as a way of aligning one's total self). Our emphasis has mostly been on Mantra Siddhi, the use of mantra as a means for attuning the heart and mind to a more open, creative, harmonious and resourceful state of being.

    This use of mantra is nothing new. What is new, perhaps, is the way we're talking about it. We're using the concept of attunement to describe how the use of mantra in meditation allows one to intentionally cultivate mental and emotional states and habits of mind that are more adaptive, more resilient, and more useful in the pursuit of our aims and purposes.

    Mind is the vehicle through which we perceive, understand and operate in the world. It's not who we are, but it does play a large role in how we are, and what we can accomplish. Our quality of mind and, more to the point, our practiced state of mind, is what determines who we are and what we can be in this world.

    A clear and open mind, a mind that is calm and steady, a mind that is sensitive and perceptive, yet strong and resilient -- who wouldn't want more of that?

    Meditation is a way to condition the mind to be more agile, more strong, more naturally selective in a good and useful way, and overall, since this kind of mind is more adaptive, more able to enjoy life and living, regardless of the circumstances.

    We use the concept of attunement to describe how this happens. First, a definition of what we mean by the verb, "to tune," and what we mean by attunement:

    To tune something is to adjust it to a certain level of performance, the way we do with a musical instrument when we tune the strings to the correct or uniform pitch. Another analogue is the way we tune a transmitter or receiver circuit to the frequency of the desired (or required) signal.

    In the context of meditation, an attunement would be adjusting the mind and heart (through the use of s deliberate, sustained, focusing of attention) to a state or condition of mind (bhavana) that is more expansive, more resourceful, more joyful and more free. We deliberately use the practice of mantra to progressively liberate the mind from a more restricted, uncomfortable state, to a more useful, rewarding and adaptive state. This, over time, conditions the mind to operate spontaneously from a more rewarding "frequency." We train the mind to be more adaptive, more useful. We reduce conflict and resistance.

    The practice of Raja Yoga, as demonstrated in this Mantra Yoga, has been used for thousands of years to support this natural and holistic evolution of mind and consciousness.

    Yoga is about the perfection of the total self, meaning living one's greatest potential, supporting a natural and fully effective way of being through the systematic release of constraint and restriction in heart and mind as well as in the body.